After this divisive election, I want to take a moment to speak directly to young women in this country. Im sorry.
Im sorry we failed you. Im sorry you have woken up to a reality where you believe not only can a woman not be president, but in place of a competent professional female, weve selected a boy who treats wives severely and speaks about women in such a degrading behaviour. We as a number of countries have sent you a terrible message, and I want to apologize for that . strong>
You are beautiful.
Despite what youve heard, “youre not” defined by a number on a 110 scale. Beauty is not defined simply as a Barbie doll with a certain breast size, five-inch pumps, and perfect whisker although thats what you will be led to believe by the comments he has made and the choices he has constructed in his personal life. I assure you that is not the case.
Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and colors . strong> If the magazines youre reading tell you any different, stop buying them. If the fashion brands youre wearing tell you any different, stop buying them.
It is not OK for someone to grab you. Ever.
That hand that slips into the back of your cocktail dress at an event. That hand on your thigh at the bar. That son who pulls your gasps down in gym class as a gag. That son who rips your shirt off in school as a gag. That guy on the street who throws his hand on your shoulder and tells you to smile. That guy on the qualify who pretends its just crowded. None of it is OK . strong> And dont let anyone tell you any different.
You are not defined by your relationship to a man.
It is an unfortunate fact that the only real female presidential nominee our country could stomach was launched into the political arena through her husband. For some reason, too many people in this country still feel Its OK, as long as inferno be there with her calling the shots. We need to redefine that. First lady cannot and should not be the only plausible route to the White House . strong>
Be smart. Be a badass.
The topics should be: What do you want to be when you grow up? What do you want to do? Not what the hell are you want to look like, what size you want to be, what bag you want to own, who you want to marry.
What do you want to do ? strong>
If youre smarter than the boys, be smarter than them. Dont dumb yourself down to not frighten them. If you can kick their ass in athletics, do it. Dont worry about being feminine or girly or worry about whether a son will like you.< strong> Do what the hell are you adoration. Be who you are. And dont apologize . strong>
Make it rain glass.
Weve done it wrong. Weve walked it off too many times. Weve awkwardly giggled when tackling harassment in the workplace because weve thought that anything else would leave us out of the conversation.
Weve been timid. Weve tiptoed. Weve played the game. No more.
I said during the third debate there was a moment I felt it and could see in Hillarys eyes 30 years of biting her tongue, of being held to another level of scrutiny, of that constant nervousnes of not getting too loud or too emotional lest you two are branded a bitch, or aggressive. I saw that feeling of being a woman in a men world.
My favorite post the coming week was from a woman who said she was catcalled on her behavior to election. Her response: Grab your umbrellas, boys. Its about to rainwater glass.
Just because Hillary did not win does not mean we need to lose that feeling, that bravado, that fearlessness.
Do not back down now. Build it rain glass. Mothers, tell your daughters. Be two examples. Build it rain, little girls. We are deflated but not defeated. Instead, its time to make it rain.
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