There is nothing incorrect with making a mistake. It’s what you say to yourself after you mess up that matters. Your self-talk( the reckons you have about your thoughts) can either amplify the negativity or help you turn that misstep into something productive.
Negative self-talk is unrealistic, unnecessary, and self-defeating. It sends you into a downward emotional spiraling that is difficult to pull out of.
All self-talk is driven by important faiths that you hold about yourself. It plays an understated but powerful role in success because it can both spur you forward to achieve your goals and hold you back.
As Henry Ford said,” He who believes he can and he who believes he cannot are both remedy .”
TalentSmart has tested the emotional intelligence( EQ) of more than a million people and found that 90% of top performers are high in EQ. These successful, high EQ men possess its significant skill–the ability to recognize and control negative self-talk so that it doesn’t stop them from reaching their full potential. This is something many of them learned in emotional intelligence training.
These successful people earn an average rate of $28,000 more annually than their low EQ peers, get promoted more frequently, and receive higher markers on evaluation of results. The is connected with EQ and earnings is so direct that all the points increased number of EQ adds $1,300 to an annual salary.
When it comes to self-talk, we’ve discovered six common, yet toxic, notions that hold people back more than any others. Be mindful of your tendencies to succumb to these ideas, so that they are able to don’t derail your job 😛 TAGEND
Toxic Belief# 1: Perfection= Success
Human beings, by our very nature, are fallible. When perfection is your goal, you’re always left with a nagging sense of failing, and end up spending your time lamenting what the hell are you failed to accomplish, instead of enjoying what you were able to achieve.
Toxic Belief# 2: My Destiny is Predetermined
Far too many people succumb to the highly irrational suggestion that they are destined to succeed or fail. Build no mistake about it, your destiny is in your own hands, and blaming multiple successes or failures on forces beyond your control is nothing more than a cop out. Sometimes life will deal you difficult cards to play, and others periods you’ll be holding aces. Your willingness to give your all in playing any hand you’re comprising determines your ultimate success or failing in life.
Toxic Belief# 3: I “Always” or “Never” Do That
There isn’t anything in life that you always or never do. You may do something a lot or not do something enough, but framing your behavior to its implementation of “always” or “never” is a shape of self-pity. It builds you believe that you have no control of yourself and will never change. Don’t succumb to it.
Toxic Belief# 4: I Succeed When Others Approve of Me
Regardless of what people think of you at any particular minute, one thing is certain [?] you’re never as good or bad as they say you are. It’s impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, but you can take people’s sentiments with a grain of salt. That route , no matter what people should be considered you, your self-worth comes only from within.
Toxic Belief# 5: My Past= My Future
Repeated failures can erode your self-confidence and make it hard to believe you’ll achieve a better outcome in the future. Most of the time, these failings result from taking perils and trying to achieve something that isn’t easy. Just be kept in mind that success lies in your ability to rise in the face of failure. Anything worth attaining is going to require you to take some risks, and you can’t allow failure to stop you from believing in your ability to succeed.
Toxic Belief# 6: My Feelings= Reality
If you’ve read Emotional Intelligence 2.0, you know how to take an objective look at your sensations and separate fact from fiction. If not, you might want to read it. Otherwise, your feelings will continue to skew your sense of reality, inducing you vulnerable to the negative self-talk that can hold you back from achieving your full potential.